Already thinking about becoming an au pair but still have that little voice in your head asking, “Is this really for me?” I totally feel you, it’s a big step, and you are not the only one feeling a bit unsure.
The term “au pair” comes from French and literally means “on par” or “equal to.” As explained by the IRS, it refers to someone who lives temporarily with a host family, typically to help with childcare, while being treated as part of the family, it is a bit different of a guest or staff member.
I’ve already shared a few tips and answered some common questions about the au pair experience in previous posts – but if you’re still figuring things out, here’s a quick refresher before we bust some of the biggest myths about the program. Find Out the Difference Between Nanny & Au Pair, Au pair Tips or Benefits of being an Au pair or how the Au pair Programs works.
Living with a family you’ve never met, in a country you don’t know yet, and helping take care of children, it might sound like a lot for a first experience abroad. But trust me, once you break down the myths and understand what being an au pair truly means, it’s one of the most amazing adventures you can have.
Let’s clear the air with the 5 most common myths about being an au pair – and the truth behind them:
1. An Au Pair Is Just a Housekeeper or Cleaner
Truth: As an au pair, your main role is childcare – helping with the kids’ routines, playing with them, maybe preparing simple meals or assisting with homework. Light housework related to the children can happen, but you’re not a cleaner or a cook. You’re there to be part of the family.
2. Only Girls Can Be Au Pairs
Truth: Of course not! While most au pairs are women, boys can be au pairs too – and many families love the idea of having a “big brother” figure in the house. Gender doesn’t define how caring, responsible, or fun you are with kids, your actions do.
3. It’s Only for Future Teachers or Professionals
Truth: Families don’t expect you to be an expert. They’re looking for someone kind, responsible, and eager to learn and help. Experience is great, but it’s not everything. A good attitude, patience, and genuine care matter much more.
4. Living with a Family Means No Privacy
Truth: As an au pair, you’ll have your own room and your own time off every week – and sometimes, you might even be placed in a separate apartment. You’ll have a schedule and clear boundaries, just like with any job. Families understand the importance of personal space, and you’re free to explore, relax, and make friends in your free time.
5. You Have to Choose Between Travel and Responsibility
Truth: Being an au pair is all about balance. Yes, you’ll have responsibilities, but you’ll also have plenty of time to travel thanks to a flexible schedule. You can make new friends, attend language classes, and truly enjoy local life while still doing something meaningful.
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As an au pair, you might find yourself enjoying the easygoing life in Australia, taking Mandarin classes in a busy Chinese city, or tasting real French pastries in a small town. Maybe you’ll be welcomed by a friendly Spanish or Irish family and get to see what daily life is really like in a new culture.
It’s not always picture-perfect, there will be moments of challenge and learning too, but the experience is packed with real memories, new flavours, new people, and small everyday moments that stick with you forever.
Still wondering if it’s for you? We get it, taking the leap abroad can feel scary. But you’re not alone. Our team at Roast Jobs is here to help you every step of the way, from picking the right country to preparing for departure.
Contact one of our friendly consultants or drop us an email at hello@roastjobs.com. Let’s write your next adventure together. Discover more at roastjobs.com
This blog post was written by Júlia Zapparolli. Thank you for reading! 😊
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